Thank you

Gratitude is a sentiment we'd all do well to cultivate, according to positive psychologists, mental health clinicians and researchers who seek to help everyone create more joy in life. Feeling thankful and expressing that thanks makes you happier and heartier. In many occasions, I would simply say, "Thanks dearie..." or "Thank you dearie". I really meant those thank yous from the bottom of my heart but the question remains whether it is enough for the person you treasure and appreciate the most in your life. That's when expressive gestures comes in. I thank my dearie for many things, amongst others:

• Giving me emotional support when I'm down, to discuss our views and share our knowledge, mostly regarding our job (and thankfully, we do share a lot of similar values and sentiments)
• Strengthen our bond by writing me notes, and adorable cards for assurance
• Giving me hugs and kisses, whether delivery or non-delivery ways
• Helping me with laundry even though I feel bad for letting her help me because I just want her to rest (but doing things together is more fun!)
• Letting me take her various photos, either glam or un-glam
• Giving me cookies and chocolates
• Help me to buy groceries together
• Enjoying my terrible cookings with a smile
• Having dinners together and buying food over
  
• Drinking wine together while watching movies
• Giving me massages when I'm extremely under pressure and needed some relief
• Giving me dinner treats on special occasions, lunches, presents and gifts
• Giving me a family feel when I'm all alone
• Making me coffee and breakfast (very cute when she over-poured the oil for prata)
• Watching events together, like world cup, SYOG and National Day
• Watching movies together even though some movies are not her type
• Holding my hands while we walk and teaching me how to hold hands properly
• Attending my lectures and taking notes like a diligent student
• Going to holidays together with me
• Letting me pursue my dreams and my certifications
  
• Giving me warmth in my heart with that smile of hers .. and many more

As we're humans, we have no telepathy or mind-reading capabilities. The thoughts must be explicitly communicated effectively or otherwise, the other party might misunderstand. So keeping emotionally connected means we both are on the same page and would be happy to resolve things together without any misunderstandings.

And finally of cos, I can't thank you enough Dearie. And I love you truly do and you know (yes I copied yours because it is so sweet).

Mike Dearie

Dido - Thank you

The Road ahead

Kris Dearie

Missed you so much today but again don't want to bother your peaceful teachers' day break which you truly deserve. Hope you had a good relaxing day.

I had a chance to share with Cherry which I find my other friends would not be able to understand. The reason why I did not share with Nat or Jean is because they may not fully understand what we're going through. Cherry on the other hand had a similar situation which she seeked for mentorship from her church friend couple and she also shared a very good document which I will later forward to your email. She texted me this afterward which says,

"Father, I want to commit Mike and Kristine onto your loving hands, guide them to seek you and your kingdom, bring your Godly counsel to advise them, give them wisdom to discern, pray for your loving hands to boothe and pain and heal the hurt. May they reign and soar like an eagle victoriously for you because they are all rightful son and daughter. In Jesus name, Amen."

She also mentioned that I am surrounded by people whom take care of me as little brother, which I never realized until she mentioned about it. For example, Mark and his wife, loves me like a brother. Chong Poh, Tien Yau and I had lots of discussions and talks and they've been guiding me through. Joseph, whom always invited me to his church activities and treated me like his brother. I have asked Mark to become my mentor in my relationships because he truly cares about me; he is a friend, and someone I can look up to as a model. He prayed for the road ahead of us, wished that we could sort out our differences and lead the life we both will cherish each other.

I have learned many things in the past few days which made me realized there are many things beyond my knowledge and it is important whom I confide in or share with because the impact can make significant differences. I'm thankful that I'm surrounded with the people who are knowledgeable, kind and loving, concerned with the road that lies ahead.

Please let me know after you read the document I sent to your email, dearie. Love you so much.

Mike Dearie

Happy Teachers' Day

Kris Dearie

Happy Teachers' Day again. Hope that you have received lots of emails, messages and notes from your loving students who cherish and love you, Miss Loh.

With Love,
Mike Dearie

A brand new day

Kris Dearie

I woke up today and think to myself and remembered what you said; if this is my last day, what will I do? Then I reached for my phone, wanted to send you a good morning message to make you feel energized for the day. But on second thought, I wished that you have your peace, and I prayed that you will have it throughout the day. I have finally realized loving someone is to make that someone's wish come true -- support them and treasure them even if it hurts you. Without the word "dearie" from you until you simmer down, my life line support was suspended. It is the most crucial and one of the things I treasured so dearly close to my heart. By addressing you, dearie, and getting that look in your eyes starring at me and calling me with your soft sweet tone, "dearie...". In this brand new day, I wanted to wish you had a great and peaceful day eventhough I didn't have a chance to walk with you throughout the day.

I remembered our movie outing to watch "Letters to God" and I feel like I'm Tyler, only that I'm not suffering from cancer. I will write letters to God to wish my dearie peacefulness and happiness, a cheerful girl who is truly amazing. I just wished my dearie all the best and put a smile on her face. Seeing you hopping away cheerfully sank my heart deeper than anyone could imagine.

This brand new day brought me whole new level of ideas, thoughts, and plans. I'm a thinker, who thinks a lot but failed to express. It's like a philosopher who can't speak. I've been lost in my thoughts that actions failed to take place. This has got to change -- I can't wait for tomorrow, next week, next month or next year, it must be now. I can't be afraid of what will happen if I do this or if I do that because hestiation will only delay what may be the fruitful outcome. Face it, do it, have faith and believe that it will all be alright.

I would like to close today with a song by Boyzone that is exactly how I'm feeling: Everyday I love you.

Love you always
Mike Dearie

Love

Kris Dearie,

I am not a very good writer like you, but I'll try my best. When my heart speaks, I hope you can feel and hear it. I've done so many wrong-doings in the past, but I would like to have a peaceful life with you in the future. I know we can be together, we are perfect for each other, no matter what happens my feelings for you will not change. My temper has not done a very good job of keeping you by my side -- being very harsh and tormented you many times -- but that has to change for good because I love you and care for you so much.

I do believe that a change in a person should come from within and I've been feeling substantial changes since I last broke up with you. I also do believe that my love for you is so strong that I love what you've loved, God and believe in him. You are also my companion, my partner in the life journey and my neighbor. I've no longer see myself as "me" and "I" because it is meaningless; without you. I have come to think of "us" and "we" instead.

Love is the single most important thing -- and creation. You have loved me so much that it made me grew so strong, and my love for you is deeper and deeper each day. Yet, I'm such a fool to be not so expressive and not appreciative in a good way to show how much I care for you. I've seen the "light" at the end of the tunnel finally, and wished to become a better person for good. I've feel how you have gone through and we have come to a point where we exchanged each others' shoes. Now that we've got both perspectives, I wish that we can understand each other more and will try to work things out because your love is truly incomparable to any other things in life. I love you so much dearie.

Love,
Mike Dearie

Nice song

This song reminds me of you.. It's in Mandarin but it will be good if you can get someone to translate to you. That is if you happen to view the blog.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvUsOXNPVxo

Broken

My heart is broken by my bf, one who does not know how to control his words, think logically when he is angry. In his eyes, I'm an emotional person, too emotional for him to handle. At least, I can control my thoughts and do not shoot off words that hurt people.

He suggested a break up again last night. Tell me Lord, how can I be secure in a relationship with a man who keeps saying that he wants to leave me? He wished me all the best in looking for another man. If that's what he wants, sure...

I just feel that I had loved in vain... Who is the one not appreciating the other party? Take me with you Lord, in every way, in everything... This man is not worth me giving you up. Only your love for me is true and will sustain forever.